Last year I began offering what I call teaching talks (I’m careful not to use the term dharma talk since I’m not a dharma teacher) at my local sangha. Not too frequently, as I don’t want to turn my sangha into the Nicole show, but a couple times a year seems doable. I’m scheduled to give a talk in mid-September and I’ve decided the topic will be on gratitude. So, much like my recent post on August 27th, I’m using my blog as an opportunity to write out what I’ll talk about in order to help me process and filter through some ideas. Here goes…
I’m a volunteer with hospice and currently meet with a woman who’s 100 years old. As a hospice volunteer our primary role is to to visit with patients socially and simply spend time as a friend. This particular woman has great long term memory and has told me stories from when she was as young as three years old, in 1918. However, she has very poor short term memory and often tells me the same things and asks the same questions over and over again in the span of our visits together. When telling me about her upbringing or married life she’ll often stop mid-sentence and lean in a little closer to me from her wheelchair and say, “You know, I’ve had such a great life. I am so grateful. I had great parents, a great brother and sister, and a great husband and kids.” I can tell she’s really connecting with her gratitude when she reiterates these words to me. The spirit and energy of gratitude is alive within her and radiates outwards when she talks about it – I can see it in her eyes. Her strong sense of gratitude is what ties all of her memories together – and if I had to guess it’s also part of what allowed her the capacity to live to reach 100 years old with many of her faculties about her.
Gratitude is often undervalued as a practice to cultivate in order to live a happier, healthier life. Our ability to experience gratitude is one of the determining factors in our overall quality of life. Developing a daily practice of gratitude is not only helpful but necessary if we have a desire to make the most of each moment and live with more joy and ease. Learning how to be present in the here and now and strengthen our mindfulness practice requires a certain amount of gratitude – if we are not able to connect with how much abundance and beauty surrounds us, at least on some level, it will be very difficult to live in the here and now. The stronger our feelings of gratitude are the more able we are to ‘Be Here Now’ with whatever it is we’re doing.
The more we practice gratitude the more we keep practicing, the stronger our practice gets, and the easier it becomes. But what does it mean to actually practice gratitude? How do we practice? There are many ways, of course, but as I can only speak from my own experience here are a couple of ideas that I personally do and find helpful:
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