This post is an effort to deliver an important PSA: Stress is real and part of life and there’s no such thing as being “above” the sway of it. Thinking that it’s some kind of personal moral or spiritual failure when we feel maxed out or stressed out, is a sign that we have more work to do in the personal growth department.
I find it continuously disappointing that when I attempt to share honestly with someone that I’ve had a hard day, I am then in the position of needing to do one of two things: 1) put up with unsolicited, unwelcome, unneeded, and typically unhelpful advice or 2) muster up the energy it takes (and don’t currently have) to qualify that I’m not broken and therefore not in need of fixing.
Friday was a long, hard day in the office. Without going into too many details that no one will find interesting, I’ll just say that the phone kept ringing, the emails kept coming, problems kept presenting, tech glitches kept happening, and the struggle to keep all the balls in the air was real.
Upon discovering that I work as a paid employee in the registration office of a Buddhist monastery, some people seem to be wildly confused about how there could possibly be such stress involved in the work that we do. People also seem to have strange notions centered around “if you’re a good practitioner, then stress should no longer be a thing.” So this is me wanting to share with you that despite the setting, office work is still office work. Computer work is still computer work. And customer service still means interacting with lots of humans, who are not calling or emailing to tell you how good of a job you’re doing.
Additional important PSA: Anyone who works in a job field that involves interfacing with the daily demands of the public all day are unsung heroes, many of whom are over-worked and under-paid. May we all up our game and be nicer.
I don’t think it’s common knowledge that there’s a way to recognize & interact with stress without catastrophizing the situation. That there’s a way to be present with stress when it arises in a way that does’t involve falling into the depths of its current. That feeling stressed out is NOT a moral failure, but simply part of what it means to be human. I think the fact that I am able to experience stress without allowing it to reduce my self-worth, and not view it as an indicator that I’m doing something wrong, is a foreign concept to most people. Hence the need I see for this particular post.
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