If this mending broken ankle of mine; this current stressful process of selling & moving out of our house to meet an uncertain future; this new to us used van we’ll soon be driving to California in hopes that it will make it where we’re heading; this long list of logistics to tend to today & tomorrow in preparation to turn our house of 18-years over to new owners and head out on the open road on Monday is not part of my practice, why practice at all?
I’ve been making my slow way through Suzuki Roshi’s book not always so: practicing the true spirit of Zen. This morning I read a chapter in it entitled Direct Experience of Reality. “When you believe you have some problem,” he says, “it means your practice is not good enough. When your practice is good enough, whatever you are, whatever you do, that is the direct experience of reality.”
One of the most valuable elements of my own personal practice centers around inviting whatever is happening into my sphere of okayness. Not okay as in: Hooray! Everything is awesome! I love what is happening right now! But okay as in: Okay, this too is part of life, part of my experience, part of what is going on right now. It’s not separate.
The more I give myself permission to feel whatever it is I am feeling and to acknowledge & accept whatever it is that is happening, the more I am able to get out of my own way when it comes to being able to experience agency, groundedness, and ease. Even when big winds are blowing. Even when life is super stressful. Even when I am met with additional unexpected challenges to field at every turn.
Towards the end of the chapter I read this morning, Suzuki Roshi said: “If you can enjoy your life in its true sense, then even if you injure your body, it is all right.” I felt as though he was speaking directly to me. I feel as though this is what I have been doing my best to practice as of late, ever since I broke my ankle in mid-August. It is clear to me that it is never really the what that has happened that matters most but the how I respond to it and the who I become in the wake of it, as a result.
I am finding, more and more as time goes on and my practice continues and strengthens, that there is a certain contentment, release and sense of spaciousness that comes when I allow the fierce winds (of change; sorrow; anger; fear; confusion) to be as they are. When I go running around attempting to contain them in an effort to make them simmer down or stop, all I do is exhaust myself. It is a profound waste of my time and energy to fight against whatever it is that is going on that I happen to not like or approve of. When I invite those troubling winds into my sphere of okayness, my experience changes right away. It changes my relationship to what is going on and it gives me some wiggle room to re-acclimate and adjust.
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