Now and then, I work part time as a nanny for a family with 3 young children. Yesterday, I spent some time with their 3-year-old girl Remy. On our way to the park just down the street, I spotted a dead beetle on the road as we were walking. I pointed it out to her and then moved it to a nearby patch of grass. She asked: “How come you moved it?” And I replied: “Out of respect for the dead. So it doesn’t get run over.”
A few minutes later and a little further down the street she said: “Let’s find an alive beetle and bring it to the dead beetle so it won’t be lonely.”
Did she just say “so it won’t be lonely?”
Amazing.
I told her we could for sure do that if we found another beetle. Then I commended her for having such a great idea.
We continued to the park and spent some time on the swings; followed a set of chalk arrows someone had scrolled on the pavement; then headed on back home to her house. When we were nearing the spot where the dead beetle laid in the grass, she said: “Can we take the dead beetle with us back to my house?”
I said sure and then inquired with her about what she wanted to do with it.
She said something I couldn’t quite piece together (as anyone with experience of three-year-olds knows: speech patterns tend to rapidly develop at this age, and often faster than the adults around them can keep up with) and then I suggested that maybe we bury it, which she was immediately on board with.
When we reached the dead beetle, I asked her if she wanted to carry it home. She said she wanted me to. So I picked it up and gently cupped it in my hand. Even though we were only a few houses away from hers, she checked in on the dead beetle twice, asking if I still had it. Each time, I stopped and lowered my hand so she could have a visual of it.
When we got to her house, she picked up a rock that caught her eye and said: “Let’s put this rock with the beetle so it won’t be lonely.”
Another round of amazement ensued for me.
She seemed to be coming up with these ideas all on her own accord, as a natural built in human response. It was incredibly sweet to witness and I was glad we were in no kind of rush or had any pressing time constraints. We had the ability and spaciousness to make time for this tending.
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