Recently, in a Q&A session that took place here at Deer Park Monastery, a woman asked this question: How do I keep my practice fresh? It was such a good and important question that it inspired me to craft this blog post.
To help keep my spiritual practice of mindfulness fresh and alive, I:
- Cultivate joy
- Practice gratitude
- Find ways to be creative
- Try new things
- Remain open to learning
- Keep good company
- Stay close to art & music
- Maintain good boundaries
- Prioritize self-care
- Engage in random acts of kindness
- Do service work
- Spend time in nature
Cultivate joy. Joy is necessary fuel for being an engaged, present, caring and skillful human in the world. Being an active participant in cultivating the quality of joy in my life is one of the most important things I do that contributes to my felt sense of well-being.
Practice gratitude. When I don’t create an action-plan for myself when it comes to practicing gratitude, it becomes this distant idea that sounds good but never really lands for me in any real way. I’ve had different practices over the years, such as keeping a gratitude journal and creating a regular check-in with a close friend to share about what we are grateful for. What I do currently, and have been doing for a number of years, is as follows: 1) I say a gratitude verse before eating a meal, typically inwardly to myself. 2) I do three touchings of the earth after my session of sitting meditation every morning, which involves this verse I’ve created for myself, which I say internally: I bow down to the earth, in gratitude for ______. I then fill in the blank with whatever is alive for me in that moment. I do this three times, inserting a different gratitude each time.
Find ways to be creative. I’m a big fan of bringing creativity and out-of-the-box thinking to my practice. For example: A couple of years ago, I went though a period of a few months where I found it very difficult to do my sitting meditation practice in the mornings. I had a lot of stress on board in my mind/body system and sitting on the cushion often exacerbated it. In order to continue sitting, which I was invested in doing, I made some adjustments to my practice that proved helpful. I greatly shortened my sit time; I would sometimes put on instrumental music to help hold space for & with me during my sit; and I would chose atypical locations around my house to do my sitting practice, such as on the kitchen counter!
Try new things. In order to help keep my practice from growing stale and stagnate, every January I pick up a new mindfulness practice to carry with me through the year, which I then set down at the end of the year, in order to prepare to pick up a new one for the next year. My practice this past year has been to eat all of my meals with my non-dominant hand. (Stay tuned for an upcoming blog post which will reveal my new practice for 2023!)
Remain open to learning. If I ever start thinking I have something down when it comes to my spiritual practice, I take that as a sign that I’m entering a danger zone. Once I think I have it all “figured out,” I’m in trouble. Being a perpetual student, an ongoing learner, helps me not to become dogmatic, bound to present views, or overly attached to things needing to be any certain way, other than as they are. Being open to learning also involves continuing to learn about my own self, and understanding that I am of the nature to change. So what might work for me one day to nourish the quality of freshness within me might not work the next day.
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