Okay. So, what I’m about to post here has taken me almost a year to flesh out and wrap my brain around. Here goes.
In our Buddhist practice tradition, we have this teaching: This is because that is. Short-handing it, it means: Everything happens for a reason, based on a myriad of causes and conditions. On a similar note, I see as though we have two large components of life backwards, and one leads to the other.
The first thing we commonly have backwards:
A) We often see and regard ourselves as being separate/independent/unique in times when we would do well to strengthen our ability to look with the eyes of interbeing and get in touch with our similarities, shared humanity, and true sense of connection.
B) We often see and regard ourselves as being the same in times when we would do well to cultivate a deeper understanding of our individuality.
And because of this first thing we commonly have backwards, it leads to this second thing we commonly have backwards:
C) We try to lone-wolf it in times when we would do well to lean on our loved ones for care, support, and nourishment.
D) We rely on others in times when we would do well to cultivate and/or strengthen our sovereignty.
So, D is because of B and C is because of A. This is because that is.
I realize this might be confusing, like I said: it’s taken me a year to flesh this out. Here are some practical examples that will hopefully help a bit (with corresponding letters that match with the points above):