… the paradox is one of our most valued spiritual possessions…only the paradox comes anywhere near to comprehending the fullness of life. – Carl Jung
Did you know there’s no one kind of tea that suits everyone’s fancy? Mint comes closest to being a crowd pleaser, I reckon. Still, it’s not for everyone. Nothing is.
There are countless ways to do life. And part of us knows this but it’s usually not a large enough percentage to equate to understanding on a deep enough level to make even a small dent in our delusions about such things.
There’s a persistent tickle whisper of a voice that serenades us, singing songs of fabled sameness to a shuttering detriment.
It’s worth us getting this one corrected.
We’re all one and We’re all the same are true only so much that it doesn’t interfere with another solid truth: the one about how we are all different.
Too often, we apply the lens of sameness in times when the lens of different-ness should be used. We get stuck in trite twirlings, insisting: This tea is sooo freakin good, you’re going to LOVE it! You HAVE HAVE HAVE to try it!! And if it turns out that said person who was supposed to love it does not, in fact, love it, well then clearly something is amiss with said person. Clearly their taste is flawed or their senses dulled from a sinus infection they don’t know they have or their pallet so under-developed they wouldn’t know good tea if it walked up to them like Bigfoot in the forest and said hello. Clearly, they are wrong.
Yeah yeah, we’re all different, I get it, but surely this does not apply to tea, we think to our self. Surely this tea that I love more than butterflies should be loved by everyone everywhere throughout space and time.
And it’s not likely that this is a conscious happening , mind you. It’s there operating under the surface waters of our awareness.
We get stuck in the reverse too, it’s worth mentioning. We apply the lens of different-ness when the lens of sameness should be used. And the thing here is: we are unique, just not in the ways we tend to think we are.
Sameness, different-ness. Both are complexes we get caught up in and entangled. If we don’t learn how to apply the correct lens at the correct time; if we don’t learn how to find comfort in the paradox that both are true at the same time and for good reason, our caught-ness will keep us stumbling against our own feet.