I wonder why it’s so common to question our state of being in the here and now. As in, “Gosh, why am I sooo tired?” or “What is wrong with me today? I just have no energy!” or “Darn it, why am I feeling so lousy?” The answer is simple really. We’re human.
We are of the nature to encounter sickness, tiredness and a whole myriad of other unpleasantries. Why is it we don’t allow ourselves to come into relationship with these truths? Is it that the basis of impermanence is too unstructured for us? If life is impermanent, which it is, does that mean we have no control? If we aren’t in control, what does that mean?
For me, practicing to embrace myself in the very here and now has been one of the greatest and most profound teachings I have encountered on the path of mindfulness. If we were to pick only one practice to carry with us and deeply cultivate in our lives this is it. To Be Here Now means to embrace. To embrace situations, emotions, states of mind, embrace others, and most importantly embrace ourselves just as they are. It is impossible to Be Here Now while wishing, expecting, or wanting things and people to be different than they are. When we are caught in wanting things to be other than as they are we are not able to connect with the present moment.
We spend a lot of our time and energy fighting. Fighting against the present moment. Against the natural flow of the river of life. When we practice fighting against what is happening in the here and now we water the seeds of suffering inside of ourselves. This might be a pattern that we’re unaware of. How often do we wish we were feeling a different way? How often do we wish we were doing something other than what we’re doing? How often do we wish an event played out in a different manner? How often do we wish for winter to be over or for it not to be raining or not so cold or hot? These are common examples of the ways in which we fight against the unfolding of the present moment. Ways in which we hold ourselves back from connecting truly with the here and now.
To Be Here Now is to embrace. They go together. When we cultivate one, we cultivate the other. They cannot be separated.
The more we practice to Be Here Now the more we practice letting go. The more we practice letting go the freer we become. The freer we become the more at ease we become. And when we are at ease we are at home wherever we roam. Happy trails!